This Valentine’s Day while the other Revs will do their best to ignore it, ChanelChang will celebrate the love of her husband.
Love is in the air, there are little naked babies who fly around with a bow and arrow shooting their love potion to their unsuspecting targets. This is the time of love, lust and desire or in my case the time when everyone goes out for dinner and my husband is normally out cooking it for them. Unfortunately for me my husband is a chef and that means any special occasion or any time for celebration people tend to go out for a kai and they tend to eat at my husband’s mahi. So Mother’s Day (My Birthday), any public holiday, Valentine’s Day, Father’s Day, etc Tui is always busy and that means we celebrate these days at another day. Yeap it can suck at times but this is the life I chose when I married him.
Tui is not a very romantic person, he doesn’t really like public affection nor the idea of it. Every Valentine’s Day he has treated it as just another ordinary day. But he does have his moments of amazement when he buys me flowers or even something small like a nice cup of coffee when I need it most. To him it’s the little things that count, like the quiet times when the kids have gone to sleep, when we can eat a meal together or when we can enjoy something as small as a nice cup of coffee. Yes we are like an old married couple who don’t need the romance anymore. Yes we’ve only been married a year, but as Tui says we have the rest of our lives to be romantic. Sounds like an excuse to me.
So as I sit back and watch everyone prepare for Valentine’s Day with their better halves I get to enjoy my time with a grumpy husband who is trying to give up smoking. So not only do I miss out on the romance of the day I have an angry and sick big kid laying about the house. If you’ve ever given up smoking or been a support person for someone who has you’ll understand the stages they go through. First there is the sneaking of more cigarettes, then there is the flu (all the toxins are leaving the body), then the angry (withdrawals) and last but not least the picking (always picking at food). Well at the moment Tui is at the stage between the Sick and Angry, so he is a whole heap of fun right now. But I’m very proud of him for finally giving up smoking especially for our girls and for his own health.
I suppose I should be thankful I have a man who is hard working and who loves me enough to rub my back after a hard days work and who bakes me cake and cookies when I’m craving something sweet. Yes I don’t get the pink cards with the cheesy pick-up lines or the big love heart cushions or even the little stuffed bears, but I’m ok with that, we’ve got the rest of our lives to be romantic. Just when I thought all the romance is gone from our very new marriage, he yet again surprises me with a night out for Valentine’s Day. Oh I’m a lucky girl!